So I heard that on the Abuja raid, some women were released only because they had wedding bands. Yes, Nigeria is the place where a woman only has value when she is attached to a man.
@AdakuUfere had mentioned she doesn’t blame women who play this game & I agree.
So I heard that on the Abuja raid, some women were released only because they had wedding bands.
Yes, Nigeria is the place where a woman only has value when she is attached to a man. @AdakuUfere had mentioned she doesn’t blame women who play this game & I agree.
— Moe (@Mochievous) May 1, 2019
Let me tell you a personal story. My mother is a landlady. She owns two houses on the same street in an okay part of Lagos. She also owns a school on the same street. So she isn’t doing too badly. She has held same for over 30 years so everyone calls her “mummy” of the area.
About 8 years ago, I lost my dad. See, my mother is the strongest woman I know. She is like amazing and I’ve never seen her break down for too long. Even when her husband, her mother & her sister died within the space of 5 years.
But last time I was in Lagos, she told me something that broke my heart into a million pieces She said the people on the street have started to disrespect her because “there is no man in her house”. This is despite the fact that she had built cred on that street for 30 years!
She had to ask my bro who also visited recently to go to “show face” with one particular neighbour that had being a serious pain for her. She told him something that broke my heart some more. “You bi man, they will listen to you. I am a woman, my voice can never be loud enough”
And that’s the reality of being a woman in Nigeria. No matter how loud you shout, your voice can never be loud enough. The women who have been raped shouted. The women who were beaten to death by their spouses shouted but their voices were never loud enough.
The only way is for us to come together and unite our voices until we bring the house down. As you step out of your house today, going about your business, remember that oppression of one is oppression of all. And no one is immune from being labelled “ashawo”. No one.
A woman who was attached to a man for most of her life, suddenly loses the respect she should have because the man is no longer alive. Please just take a minute and think about it. Think about how widows are treated then you will realize that we do not regard women in Nigeria.
She did everything she was to do. Got married, had children, went back to school after the civil war to get her degree, ran more than 7 different businesses in her life time, bought land, built houses. Yet….. No man. No respect. Think about that for a minute.
So when you think about it, none of us are safe. Rich or poor, married or single, mothers or non-mothers, old, or young, queer or straight …. none of us are safe.