By Ademola H Adigun
He got married 16 years back. Married an innocent lady or so he thought. He let her run the house. She managed all the funds. All he took was pocket money. Sometimes he would give her investment tips. She would listen. Three kids. Two boys and a girl. Life went on.
At some point, things changed. Income dropped. He had saved money. Asked his wife for some. There was none to spare she said. He thought liquidity. Actually none!
How could that be? An average of 2m a month for 48 months? How? Where are the investments? There was none. He did not run mad. He took it slow.
He relocated the family. Placed them in Lagos. He moved to a smaller place to get his life back. Then the stories started.
His carpenter told him he could not do repairs in the house. The driver resigned abruptly. Why?
His wife was sleeping around. With anyone and all men. She did not hide it. Carpenter walked in on her. As did others. Shame for him did not wish them to go back there again.
All those she introduced as family were actually mostly lovers. It had started even when times were good. He could not believe it.
He went on a 20 day dry fast. It brought revelation to him. Episodes and all that. He confronted her. She confessed. She apologised. She said her problem was spritual. They sought spritual cure.
While he was with me, I saw the texts that came from the wife of the Woli. His wife was sleeping with her husband. The Woli’s wife asked him to intervene. It had become public knowledge.
She accidentally backed up WhatsApp chats to his mail address. The chats were depressing. Showed a pattern. He read them. I saw some.
I asked how he kept his sanity. He laughed. He would be okay he told me. But he had learnt… “love is not enough for marriage, visions must align. The family you are marrying into, is almost as important as your wife, if not more important.”
He asked me to share this so others could learn. He is raising funds to conduct a DNA on the three kids. My advice was for him to let that be. Why hurt the kids?
He abandoned his family for love. He has reconciled with them now. He said no one should ever do that. A big mistake.
I have shared it as he requested. He is not seeking pity!